My Mother In Law's Interference In My Marriage Is Driving Me Crazy..Am About To Run...

Hi ocniggi,

Hope you are doing OK. I love the good job you are doing with your blog. 

I need your advice and that of your readers.

I have been married for 10yrs and i love my husband very much. 

The problem is that his mother keeps meddling in our

home and causing problems but so far the issues never 

got out of hand thank God!

The one that is giving me heart ache now is that she told 

my husband that our kids school fees was too much and my 

husband agreed with her and asked that the kids ages 8,6 and 4 be put

 in a cheaper school their reason being that 

my husband and his siblings went to public schools. Stella i also

 went to public school but the public school of our days

are different from today's public school. Our kids used to go to school

 that one person's school fees was 150k a term 

my husband told me he was not going to pay more than 50k

 for a child anymore after the mum came up with how he 

was paying too much i had to call her and talk to her and gave her 

reasons why public school was a no no she then 

suggested cheaper schools how she got to know how much we were

 paying for sch fees i don't know all these happened

before the new sch term started i decided to obey my husband since i saw

 that he was serious.

  The cheapest nicest

sch i found was 85k which he agreed to pay. My husband makes 

over 1million a month,i earn 250k a month and my contribution

is to feed the family, every other expense except food is taken care of by hubby, 

we live in a rented apartment

although we are building. the house my mother in law lives in was 

built by my husband 3yrs ago. anytime he is doing stuff for 

his people i don't interfere meanwhile he is no 3 out of 5 children but the only one doing well.

Now the issue i have is that since my kids started attending this new

 school my 8yrs old daughter comes home saying waka! ntooo!

bastard! i just can't deal its driving me nuts. I asked their dad if he was okay 

with all these grammar our child is using and he told

me to keep correcting her. 

I didn't use my money to buy food this month but asked him for money

 because I'm saving to change

them back to the school they were before but i don't know if i can continue 

like this or if i want to be the one paying for our kids school fees. I am an American citizen and i am honestly thinking of eloping with my kids but i don't want to break 

my marriage by

this action.My sister in America is advising i  come this Xmas with my kids

 i have already gotten them visas it will be easy 

to file for them when we are there but seriously i don't know

 if its a wise thing to do and i don't want to threaten my husband with

this cos I'm not sure what his reaction would be. I have been praying for 

him to have a change of heart i don't know how long my

patience can hold.

 I really need Ur advice. 

Thanks.

*I have a mother in law who puts her nose in everything all her children does..everything.

I had my own naija method of dealing before she let go and i cannot reccommend it to anyone cos one mans meat is another mans poison....study your mother in law and look for a way to become her best friend,she might not stop but you will know first hand what she is up to...lol

Running away is not a good option as well.

Goodluck